Spencer and I have had a really wonderful 8 months of marriage so far. I think we have a really strong relationship and great communication, and it doesn't hurt that we've took most of our classes together during winter semester and summer term. :-) We've always been able to spend most of our study time studying together because we've been in classes together, and we've always had time to sit together for a few hours each day, even if it's in a lecture hall. This fall we don't have any classes together. It makes me sad every time I think about it, because we've always had classes together since our very first term here.
Katy got me a book called For All Eternity by Dr. Lund for my wedding. It's a book about communication in marriage, and it is so good. I highly recommend it. Anyway, one of the things he recommends doing is the "Magnificent Seven", and Spencer and I decided to give it a try, partly because we know that our time together might be a bit more limited in the fall than it has been so far. Here's how it works.
Each day you give:
- A verbal "I love you" with eye contact
- A 5 second kiss
- A 10 second expression of verbal appreciation in person or on the phone
- A 15 minute "Honey Do", which is basically 15 minutes of service chosen by the other person given with a positive attitude. It can be used each day or saved up for a week for one 1 hour and 45 minute chunk on Saturday.
- A 20 second hug
- A written expression of acceptance, appreciation, or affection. (We're going to do ours in a Journal to keep them)
- At least 30 minutes (total) of talk time
We do most of these things each day already, but we can always work on them. I've wanted to try this out ever since I first read the book, and I think this is a good time to do it. Things get so busy during the semesters, and our schedule is looking like it will be extra hectic this time. I think this will help us make sure we are continually strengthening our marriage and keeping our focus on each other.
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